Anniversary gifts for couples: what to give your partner

Our picks

1. Lelo TIANI 3

A couples vibrator she wears during sex, so you both feel the vibrations. The remote has SenseMotion: tilt it and the vibration follows, across 8 patterns. It is waterproof and rechargeable, and whoever holds the remote really plays along.

• Best for: couples who want a gift they genuinely use together.

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2. Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples

Another toy to wear during sex, this time with Satisfyer's air pulse technology: the outer part stimulates the clitoris with pressure waves while the inner part vibrates in 12 levels. An easy first step if you do not own a couples toy yet.

• Best for: a first anniversary and a first toy for two.

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3. Shunga Naughtier Kit

A complete set for a long, slow evening: Toko Aqua water-based lubricant, Secret Garden gel for the clitoris, Dragon cream for couples, Rain of Love cream for the G-spot area and Divine Pleasure lip gloss. A kit made for gifting.

• Best for: couples celebrating with an evening just for the two of them.

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4. Obsessive Estiqua Long Peignoir

A long, semi transparent peignoir with an open front and a decorated hem and back, reaching past the knee. The stretchy fabric makes it fall smoothly, and it comes in XS/S, M/L and XL/XXL. Unsure about the size? Check our lingerie size guide.

• Best for: a romantic gift she wears for you and for herself.

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5. Secret Play Kinky or Vanilla

A board game with 90 cards full of questions and dares, in English and six other languages. As you play, you find out whether your tastes lean kinky or vanilla. Especially after a few years together it sparks surprisingly new conversations.

• Best for: couples who want to get to know each other all over again.

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6. Pretty Love 30th Anniversary Collection Kit

Six toys in one box: a vibrator, two stimulators, Kegel balls, a butt plug and a flogger. The name already fits an anniversary, and it is the easiest way to find out which kinds of play you keep coming back to.

• Best for: couples who want to try a bit of everything at once.

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7. LateToBed 8 Piece Leather Bondage Kit

Eight pieces with gold details in a snake print case: handcuffs, ankle cuffs, a kitten mask, a breathable ball gag, a flogger, nipple clamps, a heart shaped paddle and a collar with leash. Agree on a safeword, and because talking is not possible with a gag, a hand signal too.

• Best for: couples who want a more adventurous anniversary.

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8. Lelo TIANI 24K

The luxury version of the couples vibrator, with a 24 carat gold ring and its own serial number on every piece. Two motors, 8 settings and a remote that works up to 12 metres away. A gift for a milestone.

• Best for: ten years or more together.

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The eight compared

Ideas by relationship length

1 year together

The first year is about discovering each other. Choose something playful and new: a first couples toy, beautiful lingerie or an evening you have never had before. A short letter about how you met makes any gift more personal.

5 years together

After five years you know each other's habits, and a gift that breaks the routine is worth a lot. In a marriage this is the wood anniversary, but a game, a set to try new things or a first bondage kit will do more for your evening. Read our explainer on bondage kits and sex toy sets first.

10 years and longer

The longer you have been together, the more a gift can say that you keep investing in each other. Choose luxury that lasts for years, such as a Lelo couples vibrator, and pair it with a weekend away or an evening you plan entirely yourself. Our comparison of the best couples vibrators shows which one suits you best.

An anniversary is best celebrated with something you experience together.

Unsure? Give a gift card

If you would like your partner to choose, or you cannot agree on what it should be, give a gift card. It arrives by e-mail, instantly or on the date you pick, for example the morning of your anniversary, with a personal message. The card is valid for 24 months and can be spent in parts, so you can choose something together more than once.

Tip: In the message on the gift card, recall your first date and suggest that you pick the gift together.

How to choose the right anniversary gift

• Look at what you already have. If you do not own a toy for two yet, start with a couples vibrator or a massage kit.
• Think about the evening, not only the gift. A gift you use that same night becomes a memory.
• Keep it shared. An anniversary is about both of you, so pick something you will both enjoy.
• If in doubt, go gentle. Massage oil and a game are easier to give than a bondage kit when you do not know how your partner will react.

You will find more ideas among our anniversary gifts, the gifts for couples and everything for sensual massage.