Prostate Massagers

The prostate sits a few centimetres inside the rectum, toward the front of the body, and pressure on it feels unlike anything else a man can do to himself. A prostate massager is shaped to reach it and stay there: a curved shaft, a bulb at the tip, a narrow neck, and a base with an arm that presses on the perineum from the outside. Choosing well is mostly about size and firmness; the motor comes second.

The shape, and why it looks like that

The curve aims the tip forward at the gland. The bulb gives pressure a surface to press with. The narrow neck lets the muscle close so the toy stays in on its own, which is what makes hands free use possible. The perineum arm presses the gland from below at the same time, and on vibrating models it often carries a second motor.

Some toys are designed to move with the body: squeeze the pelvic floor and the toy rocks against the prostate. That is the classic hands free design and the one to start with.

Size

The prostate is usually five to seven centimetres in, so an insertable length of eight to ten centimetres reaches it with room to spare. A first massager has a bulb of 25 to 30 millimetres across; that is enough to press with and small enough to hold for an hour. Larger bulbs give more pressure and are for later. Length beyond twelve centimetres does not help; it slides past the spot.

Firm or flexible

A firm toy presses; a very soft one bends away from the gland and gives fullness instead of pressure. Silicone with a firm core, or a solid steel or aluminium toy, gives the most direct feeling. A flexible neck helps the toy follow the body while moving, which suits people who use it during other things.

Vibrating, rotating, moving

Vibration on the prostate is felt through the whole pelvis, and a rumbly motor in the bulb is the version that does something; a buzzy one numbs. Rotating or come hither models move the tip against the gland and are the ones people rave about once they have learned to relax with a toy in place. Remote control or an app lets a partner run it, and lets the wearer keep still. For a first massager, plain vibration with a few steady levels is enough.

Material

Platinum silicone for anything worn for a while: warm, smooth, non porous, boilable. Stainless steel and aluminium for weight and pressure that needs no effort; they are cold at first, warm quickly, and are the choice for people who know their size. Nothing porous should be used here.

How to use it

Warm up first, use plenty of water based lubricant, insert slowly with the curve toward the front, and then stop moving. Most of the effect comes from staying still, breathing, and squeezing the pelvic floor in a slow rhythm; a toy that rocks against the gland does the rest. Half an hour is a reasonable first session. Combine with other stimulation or not, as you like; either works.

Care and health

Wash with warm water and soap after use; silicone and metal without a motor can be boiled. Water based lubricant only with silicone. Stop if there is pain or bleeding. Men with prostatitis, haemorrhoids or recent surgery in the area should ask a doctor before using one; there is nothing to suggest regular massage harms a healthy prostate.

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