Gift ideas for your partner: 25 original ideas

For her: five ideas

• 1. An air pulse toy. The Satisfyer Pro 2 caresses the clitoris with gentle pressure waves instead of vibration, across 11 levels. It is waterproof, quiet and has sold in the millions.
• 2. Satin instead of lace. The Obsessive Miamor is a black satin robe with lace sleeves and a matching thong, in S/M and L/XL. Satin feels cool on the skin, and she will wear it on a lazy Sunday morning just as happily.
• 3. A remote panty vibrator. The LateToBed Plitz is shaped to stay in place in her underwear while you hold the remote with 10 settings. An ordinary dinner out suddenly becomes very interesting.
• 4. A bath night just for her. Bath salts, her favourite wine, a good book and the promise that you will handle everything else that evening.
• 5. A letter about what you love in her. Write down three specific moments when you loved her more than usual. It costs nothing and often gets kept for years.

You will find more ideas among our gifts for her.

For him: four ideas

• 6. A masturbator that does something different. Inside the Tenga Spinner 05 Beads a spiral core makes the sleeve twist as he moves. Beads is the most textured version of the range, and it is reusable.
• 7. A vibrating cock ring for both of you. The Satisfyer Duelist is adjustable, so it fits instead of pinching. With 12 settings and texture on the outside, his partner feels it too.
• 8. An evening where he does nothing. Cook his favourite dish, queue up the film he has wanted to see for months and finish with a long back massage.
• 9. Lingerie for him. Men almost never receive lingerie, yet there are good looking briefs, thongs and bodies made for men. Because he does not expect it, it makes an impression.

Also have a look at our gifts for him.

A gift for your partner does not have to be big, but it does have to be personal.

For the two of you: four ideas

• 10. A couples vibrator. She wears the Lelo TIANI 3 during sex, so you both feel the vibrations. Tilting the remote changes the vibration, with 8 patterns in total.
• 11. A blindfold and a feather. When you cannot see, every touch feels stronger. A soft blindfold is the easiest first step towards more adventurous play.
• 12. A simple bondage set. Cuffs, a blindfold and a tickler are enough to find out whether this is for you. Agree on a safeword beforehand and never leave someone alone while they are restrained.
• 13. A promise in an envelope. Write on it that this week you will choose a new toy together. Our guide on introducing a sex toy to your partner helps you bring it up, and toys for couples explains the main types.

Tip: Not sure your partner would enjoy a toy as a gift? Choose something for the two of you, such as massage oil or a game. It feels like an invitation and never like a hint.

Experiences at home: four ideas

• 14. A massage night. The Shunga Island Blossoms massage candle burns at a much lower temperature than an ordinary candle, so the melted wax reaches the skin as warm oil. Pour a little into your own palm first to check the heat.
• 15. A game night for two. Kinky or Vanilla by Secret Play is a board game with 90 cards full of questions and dares, in English and six other languages. By the end you know whether you lean kinky or vanilla, and a lot more about each other.
• 16. A restaurant at home. Lay the table as if you were going out, write a menu and cook three courses. Dress for it too.
• 17. Vouchers for time together. Breakfast in bed, an afternoon without phones, an evening where the other one decides.

The best gifts are often an evening you share, not a thing that disappears into a cupboard.

Small and sweet: four ideas

• 18. Kissable massage oil. The Shunga Fruity Kisses set holds two fruit flavoured massage oils and a water-based lubricant, all three kissable. A small box with a whole evening inside.
• 19. A playlist of your songs. The song from your first date, from that one holiday, from the party where you kept dancing. Free and very personal.
• 20. A framed photo. Pick not the most beautiful but the funniest picture of the two of you.
• 21. A week of notes. Hide a note every day where your partner will find it: in a coat pocket, in the fridge, between the pages of a book.

Luxury: three ideas

• 22. An air pulse toy from Lelo. The Lelo Sona 2 stimulates the clitoris with sonic waves without having to touch the skin, across 12 settings. Waterproof, rechargeable and made of soft silicone.
• 23. A brand built to last. Toys from Lelo are known for strong motors and a finish you notice the moment you pick one up. Ideal for someone who already owns a few toys and wants something better.
• 24. A weekend away with a bag of surprises. Book a hotel, pack the bag yourself and slip in something satin, a massage oil and a toy. You will find more ideas among our luxury gifts.

The safe choice: a gift card

25. The gift card. If you truly do not know what your partner wants, or you would rather let them choose, a gift card is the safe choice. It arrives by e-mail, instantly or on the date you pick, with a personal message from you. The card is valid for 24 months and can be spent in parts, so a massage oil first and something bigger later.

Tip: Have the gift card arrive at a moment that matters, for example on the morning of your anniversary, and add a line only the two of you will understand.