Why a gift card is a good gift for couples

Is a gift card a good gift for a couple?

Yes, especially when you do not know exactly what the couple already owns or what they are curious about together. A vibrator, lingerie or a massage set is a very personal thing: size, taste and limits differ from couple to couple, and even your own partner may react differently than you expect to something you find exciting. A gift card moves the choice to the moment they sit down to look together. And that looking together, on the sofa with the laptop between them, is often half the present.

Isn't a gift card impersonal?

Only if you give it without words. A card with no context says you did not know what to get, a card with a few warm lines says you want them to have something lovely and that they know best what that is. With erotic gifts, the second message is actually the respectful one: you leave the choice to the two people it concerns. The difference is not in the gift itself but in how you hand it over.

A card without words says you did not know, a card with a few lines says they know best.

How do you make a gift card personal?

Write your own message and give it a direction. With the gift card you add a personal message that appears on the card. Mention a shared memory, a joke only the three of you understand, or a concrete idea such as "for an evening without phones" or "for something you have never tried together". If you want to give more of a nudge, send a link to our gifts for couples as inspiration. That way the card feels like an invitation rather than an assignment.

Is an erotic gift card discreet?

Yes, the gift card arrives as a tidy e-mail with the amount, the code and your message, without product photos or explicit wording. The subject line only says that a gift card has arrived. That makes it comfortable to open, even if someone is looking over a shoulder. If you would rather hand it over yourself, leave the recipient's e-mail address empty: the card then comes to you and you can give it in person.

How long is the gift card valid?

The gift card is valid for 24 months. That gives a couple plenty of room to choose at their own pace, or to save the balance for a special occasion such as an anniversary or Valentine's Day. The date it is valid until is shown on the card itself, so nobody has to remember it.

Can you spend a gift card in parts?

Yes, the balance stays on the card until it is used up. A couple can start with something small, such as a massage candle, and come back later for a bigger toy if they enjoyed it. They enter the code at checkout, and whatever is left stays available for next time.

What can a couple buy with a gift card?

That is their choice, but most couples start in one of these directions:

• A couples vibrator she wears during sex and you both feel, such as the Lelo Tiani Harmony with two motors and a Bluetooth app, or the Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples, which stimulates the clitoris with pressure waves while the inner part vibrates.
• Massage and mood, such as the Shunga Island Blossoms massage candle, which melts into warm oil, or the Shunga Sweet Kisses set with edible massage oil, warming oil, edible body paint, body powder and a tickling feather. There is more in massage oils and candles.
• Games and ideas, such as Kheper Games Date Nights with fifty sticks and a hundred date ideas, or the Secret Play Sex Coupons, a booklet of coupons to hand to each other.
• Something more daring, such as the Fifty Shades of Grey blindfold in soft faux leather, or the IntoYou Starters Bondage Set with a mask, handcuffs, a feather tickler and dice. With handcuffs, always agree on a safeword and never leave someone alone while they are restrained.
• Lingerie, such as the red Obsessive Sensuelia robe, which ties with a bow at the neck and falls open from the shoulders. This is where a gift card really helps, because a size is better chosen by the person who wears it.

Two guides help with the choice: toys for couples explains the main types, and sex toy gifts for her gives ideas by experience.

Can you schedule a gift card for a specific date?

Yes, you choose a delivery date yourself, or you let the card go out straight after payment. That way the gift card lands on the morning of a wedding anniversary, a birthday, Valentine's Day or Christmas, even if you arranged it weeks earlier. If you are late, choose to send it straight away: the card travels by e-mail, so there is no parcel to wait for.

Tip: Pick a delivery date when the couple is at home together, a Friday evening for example. They open the e-mail together and start browsing right away, instead of the card sitting unread in an inbox.

Can you combine a gift card with a small gift?

Yes, and it is the easiest way to make it feel tangible. Give something small the couple can start with that same evening, such as the massage candle or the coupon booklet, and leave the bigger choice to the gift card. Or pick a theme: a blindfold with the message "the rest is up to you". The small gift ships in a plain box without a logo, so that parcel gives nothing away either. If you are looking for more December ideas for her, for him and for the two of them, have a look at our Christmas gift guide.

Who is a gift card for a couple the best gift for?

For anyone who knows the couple well enough to give something intimate, but not well enough to know what they want. Think of friends who are getting married, a couple celebrating an anniversary, or a hen or stag party where something cheeky belongs. It works surprisingly well for your own partner too: hand over the card and agree that you will choose together. The gift then becomes an evening together instead of a guess.